Mistake is such an ugly word, especially when you’re planning the most important day of your life. But almost every bride and groom has that one “thing” they wish they’d done differently during their wedding planning (note: we’re talking wedding planning, not wedding day). Here are some of the most common wedding planning mistakes that can negatively impact both the planning and the big day, and how to avoid them.
Not asking the right questions
The mistake: Jumping in with both feet into wedding planning can seem like a good idea at the time, but can lead to some serious backtracking and regrets.
How to avoid the regret: As tempting as it is to jump into wedding planning, asking yourself important questions before you start wedding planning helps you avoid having to backtrack and rethink details. Have the “talk” with your fiance and family; a short conversation gives your wedding planning direction and brings out all the important requests that you need to keep in mind as you plan. Once you’ve asked your fiance the right questions, you can start asking the important vendors (like your wedding venue) the important questions that help you find the right site for your big day.
Not prioritizing your budget
The mistake: Many a bride and groom has blown too much of their budget in one area, leaving them with no money at the end of the process.
How to avoid the regret: Even if you hate budgeting, a plan helps you allocate dollars where they are needed so you don’t run out of money when you need it. Talk to your fiance and family early in the process to prioritize what is important (i.e. venue but not favors, etc.) As you plan, make sure you track your wedding costs to ensure you are staying on track. Think of your wedding budgeting as a long distance race: you want to make sure that you fuel all the way to the finish line.
Waiting too long to get started
The mistake: A couple who procrastinates misses out on the quality wedding venues and vendors.
How to avoid the regret: Everyone wants to enjoy their engagement, but it pays to be proactive. Wedding vendors work on a first-come, first-pay basis and you want to get the best. As soon as you set a date (or time of year), start checking off boxes on all the important parts of your wedding: contact wedding venues, find a wedding caterer, and start asking friends and family for recommendations for entertainment and photographers. If you’re on a super time-crunch (six months or less), use these tips to plan your perfect day very, very quickly.
Taking on too many DIY projects
The mistake: Everyone wants to save money while wedding planning, but taking on too many do-it-yourself projects can suck up all your time and money.
How to avoid the regret: Be realistic about the amount of time you have to devote to do-it-yourself projects. Put the most important projects (to you and your budget) at the top of the list. Don’t be afraid to ask other family members and close friends to help (only if they ask!). Be prepared to go to plan B if you don’t have time to complete all your DIY projects.
Taking on too many wedding planning tasks
The mistake: Wedding planning can be an overwhelming process for anyone.
How to avoid the regret: The wedding planning checklist can feel endless. If you’re overwhelmed, consider hiring a wedding planner or choosing a wedding venue with an event planner to coordinate and finalize all the details that come with your wedding. If you’re on your own, don’t be afraid to ask your venue coordinators or vendors for recommendations for other vendors; your wedding venue staff know what florists that do a beautiful job, and caterers can recommend local wedding décor vendors (if they aren’t willing to help, it’s time to contact a wedding venue with more helpful pros).
Not making de-stressing part of your wedding planning
The mistake: There’s so much to do, so many tasks to check off, that the bride and groom doesn’t remember a single moment—much less enjoy wedding planning or their special day.
How to avoid the regret: It’s easy to get so involved in making sure that every detail is so “just right” that you feel like it flies by and you don’t get the chance to take it all in. If you want to enjoy the wedding planning process and the day, plan some down time before and on the day of your wedding to relax. Use these tips so you can make sure you actually get to enjoy your wedding day, such as taking care of payments in advance and assembling an emergency kit for any ‘just in case’ scenarios.