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6 BIG Wedding Planning Regrets to Avoid

bride and groom dancing at summer wedding reception in beautiful wedding venueMistake is such an ugly word, especially when you’re planning the most important day of your life.  But almost every bride and groom has that one “thing” they wish they’d done differently during their wedding planning (note: we’re talking wedding planning, not wedding day).  Here are some of the most common wedding planning mistakes that can negatively impact both the planning and the big day, and how to avoid them.

Not asking the right questions

The mistake: Jumping in with both feet into wedding planning can seem like a good idea at the time, but can lead to some serious backtracking and regrets.

How to avoid the regret: As tempting as it is to jump into wedding planning, asking yourself important questions before you start wedding planning helps you avoid having to backtrack and rethink details.  Have the “talk” with your fiance and family; a short conversation gives your wedding planning direction and brings out all the important requests that you need to keep in mind as you plan.  Once you’ve asked your fiance the right questions, you can start asking the important vendors (like your wedding venue) the important questions that help you find the right site for your big day.

Not prioritizing your budget

The mistake: Many a bride and groom has blown too much of their budget in one area, leaving them with no money at the end of the process.

How to avoid the regret: Even if you hate budgeting, a plan helps you allocate dollars where they are needed so you don’t run out of money when you need it.  Talk to your fiance and family early in the process to prioritize what is important (i.e. venue but not favors, etc.)  As you plan, make sure you track your wedding costs to ensure you are staying on track.  Think of your wedding budgeting as a long distance race: you want to make sure that you fuel all the way to the finish line.

Waiting too long to get started

The mistake:  A couple who procrastinates misses out on the quality wedding venues and vendors.

How to avoid the regret:  Everyone wants to enjoy their engagement, but it pays to be proactive.  Wedding vendors work on a first-come, first-pay basis and you want to get the best.  As soon as you set a date (or time of year), start checking off boxes on all the important parts of your wedding: contact wedding venues, find a wedding caterer, and start asking friends and family for recommendations for entertainment and photographers.  If you’re on a super time-crunch (six months or less), use these tips to plan your perfect day very, very quickly.

Taking on too many DIY projects

The mistake: Everyone wants to save money while wedding planning, but taking on too many do-it-yourself projects can suck up all your time and money.

How to avoid the regret: Be realistic about the amount of time you have to devote to do-it-yourself projects.  Put the most important projects (to you and your budget) at the top of the list.  Don’t be afraid to ask other family members and close friends to help (only if they ask!).  Be prepared to go to plan B if you don’t have time to complete all your DIY projects.

Taking on too many wedding planning tasks

The mistake: Wedding planning can be an overwhelming process for anyone.

How to avoid the regret: The wedding planning checklist can feel endless.  If you’re overwhelmed, consider hiring a wedding planner or choosing a wedding venue with an event planner to coordinate and finalize all the details that come with your wedding.  If you’re on your own, don’t be afraid to ask your venue coordinators or vendors for recommendations for other vendors; your wedding venue staff know what florists that do a beautiful job, and caterers can recommend local wedding décor vendors (if they aren’t willing to help, it’s time to contact a wedding venue with more helpful pros).

Not making de-stressing part of your wedding planning

The mistake:  There’s so much to do, so many tasks to check off, that the bride and groom doesn’t remember a single moment—much less enjoy wedding planning or their special day.

How to avoid the regret: It’s easy to get so involved in making sure that every detail is so “just right” that you feel like it flies by and you don’t get the chance to take it all in. If you want to enjoy the wedding planning process and the day, plan some down time before and on the day of your wedding to relax.  Use these tips so you can make sure you actually get to enjoy your wedding day, such as taking care of payments in advance and assembling an emergency kit for any ‘just in case’ scenarios.

Wedding Planning Mistakes REALLY Easy to Make (And Avoid)

wedding planningLet’s be honest: no matter the size of your wedding, wedding planning is a really, really big job. And in the midst of coordinating all the details, it’s REALLY easy to make mistakes without even realizing it; it’s only after the wedding day that the bride or groom starts compiling a list of regrets. You know the “I wish I’d done that…” or “Looking back…” How do you avoid those potential regrets while in the midst of the wedding planning process? We’ve compiled a list of suggestions so you don’t slip into these common wedding planning mistakes.

Not setting a budget

Your budget is a key detail in every step of your wedding planning process, and a question you’ll find every vendor asks about. Sit down with your fiancé and any family members or friends who have expressed interest in giving you financial gifts for your special day. Making sure everyone is on the same page financially can minimize wedding planning stress, and drama, as you progress through the process. Don’t start wedding planning without a budget (unless you don’t need a budget); you’ll find that wedding expenses add up fast. If you want a sure-fire way to stay on budget, choose a wedding venue (like 1451 Renaissance Place) where you get a list of final costs at your final wedding planning meeting so you can make tweaks to the reception to fit your budget.

Blowing too much of your budget in one area

A wedding budget is like a marathon; you don’t want to put out too much energy at the end and not have enough left to cross the finish line. To make sure you stay on track, make a lined budget plan with amounts in each column. Remember, you don’t want to spend all your money on a dress and not have enough for the photographer.

Taking on too much

There is no shame or blame in asking for help. Wedding planning is a process, and can be an intimidating process for anyone. If you’re overwhelmed, consider choosing a wedding venue with an event planner to coordinate and finalize all the details that come with your wedding.


cookies for wedding guestsTo borrow an old saying, “the early bird gets the worm.” The prompt couple also gets the caterer of their choice, the best bands, DJs and entertainers, and the in-demand venue. Don’t wait until the last minute. Coordinate and confirm as many details in advance. Don’t think you’ll have time to talk to your band about your favorite dance songs, or you can call your caterer with last minute changes that morning. Follow up with your vendors well before your wedding date to confirm, and discuss in depth any preferences you have.

Not keeping everyone in the loop

Once you’ve conferred with all your vendors, coordinators and family, put the schedule for your wedding day (and day before and after) into a schedule and share it. Whether you have two or 20 attendants, give your bridesmaids, ushers, groomsmen, deejay and other participants of your big day a detailed schedule of where and what times you need them—in person, if possible. Don’t rely on random texts or other people. In the same way, consider doing the same for your guests; we’ve seen beautiful websites created especially for a couple’s big day with all the day details carefully outlined, and all their questions answered (saves you time on the phone too!). Another option is to create a social media page with details; remember this only works if your guests are on social media. If you want a more traditional schedule, compile all the details and include them in your invite.

Not leaning on experience

wedding day venueIf you need assistance while wedding planning, turn to people with experience. Don’t be afraid to ask your venue coordinators or vendors for recommendations for other vendors; your wedding venue staff know what florists that do a beautiful job, and caterers can recommend local wedding décor vendors. Or, if you want to consolidate and simplify the process, choose a venue with an on-site event planner or hire a wedding planner. Together, you and your entourage can produce a beautiful wedding day that speaks to who you are as a couple.

Treating every detail like a stand-alone part of your wedding day

Your guests are going to walk and view your wedding as a whole, so make sure you coordinate your details accordingly. Try not to get stuck on a detail that you have to have; instead focus on your wedding day as a whole, and choose details that fit with your overall vision. For example, don’t get stuck on using lilies if planning a fall wedding—and don’t think that you have to plan a rust colored fall wedding either.

Expect excellent service

310490_10150434622281803_1655992384_nWe’re not advocating turning into a bridezilla (or a husand-zilla), but set your expectations high, such as when researching wedding venues. We’ve compiled a list of five must-haves that you should expect from your wedding venue, and questions to ask to find out everything you need to know—everything you need to know to select the best wedding venue and vendors that offer the excellent service you need to plan your big day. Don’t settle for anything less.

Listen to yourself

Remember, this is your big day. At the end of the day, everyone’s going to have an opinion and advice but this is YOUR day. Decide what style fits you as a couple, and plan accordingly (or find a wedding venue with a planner-see our tip above). The result is a beautiful reflection of you are, and many months of wedding planning for your special day.