Every bride and groom’s path to choosing their big day is different. For a friend of ours, it was a fall wedding she stood up in—and loved the colors and weather. After she got engaged, she called venues to determine their open fall dates. Once she chose her ideal venue, the date was set, and all the fun wedding planning began.
We’ve seen many wedding dates set at our venue (and many weddings and wedding receptions happen!) so we thought we’d give you some tips on how to set the perfect wedding date.
If you’ve had visions of a soft sparkling white winter wedding reception with hints of cranberry and evergreen, or need to set a summer wedding date because of your busy season at work, you have some flexibility when choosing your wedding date. Open up your calendar to choose one or two months during your ideal season, and use your second—and incredibly important—decision, your wedding venue, to narrow your pool of wedding dates.
Found a venue that you just can’t wait to get married in? Have you been dreaming of a venue you saw online? Once you’ve visited the wedding site to confirm it’s as beautiful in person as it is online (this is a must)—and you’ve gotten engaged—contact the venue for a list of available dates. Choose an open date that fits you and your fiancé’s schedule and—boom!—you’ve got two items checked off on your wedding planning checklist: date and venue. (If you don’t have a venue for your wedding in mind, use these tips to find the right site for your wedding.)
Your grandparents’ wedding date. The day you met. The day of your first date. Your parents’ wedding date. The day you became engaged. If you have a specific date with sentimental meaning, try to book your wedding venue as soon as possible to make sure your ideal date at the perfect venue is available.
We’ll just say it: weddings are expensive (that’s why we’ve given you tips on how to save money while planning your wedding while planning your wedding). If you want to save money with numerous vendors, choose a wedding date that is considered off-season (ask your vendors what they consider off-season) or on a day other than a Saturday (again this varies between vendors so ask them for what days they consider off season).
Do you have a wedding photographer or caterer you really, really want to use? Contact them for available dates, and choose an open date for your wedding day. If you have a wedding caterer you’ve always wanted, you are going to need to coordinate two schedules: the caterer and a venue with an open vendor policy. Many venues require you to use their caterer, so this should be one of the first questions (of many-a full list of questions to ask your wedding venue is here) when you contact your venues.
If you want to have lots of time to take care of last minute wedding planning tasks, your wedding, and a honeymoon—without rushing into the office during and after—contact prospective wedding venues for dates during your professional “off time.” For example, if you are a teacher, a summer wedding gives you time to “get away” for your wedding (use these tips for keeping your guests cool at your summer nuptials). Landscapers, farmers, builders, and any other professionals dependent on the weather: this tip for choosing a wedding date may apply to you.
Is there just one thing that could make your big day the most special day of your life—having a very important family member at your wedding ceremony and reception? Ask your VIP family member for their availability and use that date to book a wedding venue on a date that works for you, your fiance, and your special family member.