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Adults-Only Wedding? 6 Essential Wedding Planning Tips and Ideas

Milwaukee couples, we know that planning an adults-only wedding can be very simple—and very hard. There are so many pros and cons of a wedding sans kids, and so many questions from potential guests. On one hand, an adults-only wedding can be a great party with your friends and family without any worry about kids. Plus, an adults-only wedding is an easy way to trim your wedding guest list when you want to hold a smaller wedding or your budget is tight. An adults-only wedding also lends itself to more formal wedding themes and ideas. On the flip side, an adults-only wedding can be offensive to some—especially friends or family members who might be upset that they have to hire a babysitter.

There’s a lot to consider. When an adults-only wedding is right for you, it’s full speed ahead with wedding planning—and these tips for a wonderfully grown-up wedding ceremony and reception.  

Choose your invitation wording carefully.

One of the trickiest parts of planning an adults-only wedding is making it clear that only adults are invited. Couples should never use the terms “no kids,” which is considered a major faux pas, on their invitations. Instead, use some of these adults-only wedding invite phrases when you finalize invite wording.

Have an answer ready for questions about your adults-only wedding.

The decision to hold an adults-only wedding is going to come with questions from guests. You can answer these questions on your wedding website (use this guide for creating a complete wedding website) or social media site. When you get questions, be direct and clear about your wishes. It’s also a good idea to reach out to friends and family affected by your decision. While you may have some good conversations, don’t be offended if some guests choose not to attend the wedding.

Don’t make exceptions to your adults only rule.

When you decide to hold adults-only wedding, you have to stick to it. Don’t make exceptions for some guests and not others, which can stir up hard feelings. (It is normal to allow children in the wedding party to attend the wedding reception.) If you want to accommodate the parents on your guest list, you can provide a room with experienced babysitters near the wedding.

Always tour your wedding venue before signing on the bottom line.

This wedding planning tip is for any couple, but couples hosting an adults-only wedding should add a few more items to their wedding venue tour checklist. First of all, if you are hosting a special sampling bar, it’s important to look for a wonderful cocktail area. Secondly, if you are providing a room with childcare, make sure to look for an adequate space.

Consider adding an ale or wine sampling bar.

There are so many options for wedding entertainment, but a favorite for adults-only wedding is an ale or wine sampling bar. This adults-only wedding idea is also a great way to bring a local flavor to your wedding (check out these other ideas for adding a local flavor to your wedding), because you can offer drinks from local wineries or breweries. For a special twist, you can also offer a cocktail with a custom recipe.

Don’t be afraid to ask for wedding planning assistance.

It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by wedding planning! If you need help navigating through planning a wedding sans kids, look for a local wedding planner or a wedding venue with experienced event planners that can help you pull it all together. It can be incredibly helpful a wedding planner who knows local wedding vendors that can make your vision of an adults-only wedding a reality.

12 Adults-Only Wedding Do’s and Don’ts

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Couples who want a late night of dancing and adult fun, these wedding planning tips are for you. An adults-only wedding comes with the “normal” wedding planning checklist (like choosing the right wedding venue) PLUS a few do’s, don’ts, and the wording that communicates your wishes.

Adults-Only Wedding Do’s and Don’ts

  • Do be polite about the adults-only request.
  • Don’t use negative terms like “no kids” or “kids are not welcome.”
  • Do feel free to reach out to guests who plan to bring kids.
  • Don’t be surprised if guests express displeasure at your decision.
  • Do arrange for babysitting (a kids room) in another space if your venue and budget allows.
  • Don’t make exceptions for certain guests.
  • Do include kids in your wedding party if that is what you want.
  • Don’t hesitate to include adult touches in the wedding reception, such as a wine or beer tasting.
  • Do put the request for an adults-only wedding on your website (along with this wedding website information).
  • Don’t think you have to plan your adults-only wedding alone. Hire a wedding planner to help with planning an unforgettable adult occasion.
  • Do let friends and family know about your wishes so they can help spread the word that the reception is adults-only.
  • Don’t feel like you have to give a reason for your decision. If you do have a reason (such as a limited amount of space or budget) and want to share it, use the appropriate wording to communicate your decision.

Adults-Only Wedding Wording

  1. Address invitations only to adults (no “plus family”)
  2. Include the line for “Number of adults to expect” on the wedding website or invite
  3. “We would appreciate your presence at our adult reception.”
  4. “Due to limited space, we are hosting a dinner and reception for adults only.”
  5. “Our reception is an adult affair. Babysitting for children will be provided in another space at our venue.”
  6. “We are planning an adults’ night out to celebrate our special day. Please let us know how many adults will be joining us.”
  7. “Our wedding reception is an adults-only occasion. We are arranging for babysitting in another room. Parents will be responsible for the caretakers’ compensation.”
  8. “We will be including our youngest family members in our wedding, however we ask that the wedding reception be an adults-only affair.”
  9. “Our wedding reception plans are for a late night of dancing and fun. Please RSVP with the names of adults that are joining us for the celebration.”
  10. “We love your children, but we cannot accommodate them at our wedding reception. Please respond with the number of adults that will be joining us.”