Milwaukee couples, we know that planning an adults-only wedding can be very simple—and very hard. There are so many pros and cons of a wedding sans kids, and so many questions from potential guests. On one hand, an adults-only wedding can be a great party with your friends and family without any worry about kids. Plus, an adults-only wedding is an easy way to trim your wedding guest list when you want to hold a smaller wedding or your budget is tight. An adults-only wedding also lends itself to more formal wedding themes and ideas. On the flip side, an adults-only wedding can be offensive to some—especially friends or family members who might be upset that they have to hire a babysitter.
There’s a lot to consider. When an adults-only wedding is right for you, it’s full speed ahead with wedding planning—and these tips for a wonderfully grown-up wedding ceremony and reception.
Choose your invitation wording carefully.
One of the trickiest parts of planning an adults-only wedding is making it clear that only adults are invited. Couples should never use the terms “no kids,” which is considered a major faux pas, on their invitations. Instead, use some of these adults-only wedding invite phrases when you finalize invite wording.
Have an answer ready for questions about your adults-only wedding.
The decision to hold an adults-only wedding is going to come with questions from guests. You can answer these questions on your wedding website (use this guide for creating a complete wedding website) or social media site. When you get questions, be direct and clear about your wishes. It’s also a good idea to reach out to friends and family affected by your decision. While you may have some good conversations, don’t be offended if some guests choose not to attend the wedding.
Don’t make exceptions to your adults only rule.
When you decide to hold adults-only wedding, you have to stick to it. Don’t make exceptions for some guests and not others, which can stir up hard feelings. (It is normal to allow children in the wedding party to attend the wedding reception.) If you want to accommodate the parents on your guest list, you can provide a room with experienced babysitters near the wedding.
Always tour your wedding venue before signing on the bottom line.
This wedding planning tip is for any couple, but couples hosting an adults-only wedding should add a few more items to their wedding venue tour checklist. First of all, if you are hosting a special sampling bar, it’s important to look for a wonderful cocktail area. Secondly, if you are providing a room with childcare, make sure to look for an adequate space.
Consider adding an ale or wine sampling bar.
There are so many options for wedding entertainment, but a favorite for adults-only wedding is an ale or wine sampling bar. This adults-only wedding idea is also a great way to bring a local flavor to your wedding (check out these other ideas for adding a local flavor to your wedding), because you can offer drinks from local wineries or breweries. For a special twist, you can also offer a cocktail with a custom recipe.
Don’t be afraid to ask for wedding planning assistance.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by wedding planning! If you need help navigating through planning a wedding sans kids, look for a local wedding planner or a wedding venue with experienced event planners that can help you pull it all together. It can be incredibly helpful a wedding planner who knows local wedding vendors that can make your vision of an adults-only wedding a reality.