12 Adults-Only Wedding Do’s and Don’ts

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Couples who want a late night of dancing and adult fun, these wedding planning tips are for you. An adults-only wedding comes with the “normal” wedding planning checklist (like choosing the right wedding venue) PLUS a few do’s, don’ts, and the wording that communicates your wishes.

Adults-Only Wedding Do’s and Don’ts

  • Do be polite about the adults-only request.
  • Don’t use negative terms like “no kids” or “kids are not welcome.”
  • Do feel free to reach out to guests who plan to bring kids.
  • Don’t be surprised if guests express displeasure at your decision.
  • Do arrange for babysitting (a kids room) in another space if your venue and budget allows.
  • Don’t make exceptions for certain guests.
  • Do include kids in your wedding party if that is what you want.
  • Don’t hesitate to include adult touches in the wedding reception, such as a wine or beer tasting.
  • Do put the request for an adults-only wedding on your website (along with this wedding website information).
  • Don’t think you have to plan your adults-only wedding alone. Hire a wedding planner to help with planning an unforgettable adult occasion.
  • Do let friends and family know about your wishes so they can help spread the word that the reception is adults-only.
  • Don’t feel like you have to give a reason for your decision. If you do have a reason (such as a limited amount of space or budget) and want to share it, use the appropriate wording to communicate your decision.

Adults-Only Wedding Wording

  1. Address invitations only to adults (no “plus family”)
  2. Include the line for “Number of adults to expect” on the wedding website or invite
  3. “We would appreciate your presence at our adult reception.”
  4. “Due to limited space, we are hosting a dinner and reception for adults only.”
  5. “Our reception is an adult affair. Babysitting for children will be provided in another space at our venue.”
  6. “We are planning an adults’ night out to celebrate our special day. Please let us know how many adults will be joining us.”
  7. “Our wedding reception is an adults-only occasion. We are arranging for babysitting in another room. Parents will be responsible for the caretakers’ compensation.”
  8. “We will be including our youngest family members in our wedding, however we ask that the wedding reception be an adults-only affair.”
  9. “Our wedding reception plans are for a late night of dancing and fun. Please RSVP with the names of adults that are joining us for the celebration.”
  10. “We love your children, but we cannot accommodate them at our wedding reception. Please respond with the number of adults that will be joining us.”

How do I book a wedding venue?

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wedding couple dancing at wedding venueFinding a wedding venue may be as simple as typing in “wedding venues near me,” touring the venue, and signing on the bottom line. But booking the right wedding venue isn’t that easy for everyone!

There are so many beautiful wedding venues (especially true in the Milwaukee area). It’s hard not to feel torn between wedding venues—especially when the choice is so important. Your wedding venue is more than just a backdrop. It’s the foundation of every wedding planning detail, the first thing your guests see, and the place you constantly contact as you set other details in stone.

Fortunately, the process of choosing a wedding venue doesn’t have to be excruciating—especially if you follow these steps for finding and booking the “one” wedding venue that’s right for your big day.

Decide on a location for your big day.

The first step of finding and booking a wedding venue is a simple conversation. Talk to your fiancé and discuss key details of your wedding, such as whether you want a big wedding or a smaller occasion with close friends and family. Come up with a general number of guests you want to invite; your guest number doesn’t have to be exact, but you should have an estimate when contacting wedding venues.

Talk about your time; do you have time to plan your wedding? If not, add “wedding venue with a planner” to your list of wedding venue criteria. This is also your chance to find out if there are any “musts” either of you has to have. (Use this list of wedding questions to steer your discussion and get answers that guide your wedding planning.)

Most importantly, discuss where you want to hold your wedding ceremony and reception. What country/state/city do you want to get married in? Talk about whether you want a destination wedding or to get married in your hometown, the city you met in, or your current “adopted” city. If you have a favorite part of town, narrow down your location criteria even further.

Next, discuss the criteria for your venue (or venues) in your chosen location.  What do you want in a ceremony site?  Do you want a religious ceremony?  Or would you rather hold your ceremony and wedding reception at the same venue?  Do you need a venue near hotels for your out-of-town guests?

Set a budget.

Once you’ve narrowed down your location criteria for a wedding venue, set a wedding budget for the venue and vendors; this wedding checklist from Real Simple or a wedding budget app can be invaluable during wedding planning. In addition to setting numbers, have an honest conversation with your fiancé about where funds for the wedding is coming from.

Your wedding budget conversation may need to go beyond the two of you. If any friends or family has offered to help with the wedding financially, ask them for specific details and an exact gift amount. To avoid any misunderstandings, try to avoid general statements. “I can pay for the venue” or “I can help with the wedding dinner” is a generous offer, but also one that can lead to drama later; the gift amount they are picturing may be very different than the actual cost.

Decide on style and season.

The location and budget are the first of several criteria for your wedding venue search. Next, decide on the style of venue that fits you as a couple. What kind of big day do you both picture? Decide whether a rustic barn, urban loft, or an elegant wedding venue fits your wedding day vision.

Now it’s time to ask the big question: what is the right day for our wedding? If you’re completely blank on where to start, use this list of ways to set a wedding date (i.e. favorite season, special day, etc.) You don’t have to come up with an exact date. In many cases, a month or season is enough to start a wedding venue search.

Use your answers (and this wedding venue checklist) to create a short list of venues in your chosen location. If you have a set date, contact the venues and ask if they are available on the day. For couples not sure about the date, ask venues what dates are available during your favorite month or season.

Use interviews to narrow down the list of venues.

Don’t worry. You don’t have to set up a million wedding venue tours (pro tip: never book a wedding venue without a tour). Narrow down your list of wedding venues further by contacting venues and asking these questions:

  • Will my wedding be the only event held at the venue?
  • What is the guest capacity of your venue? Can your venue hold a ceremony and reception?
  • How much is your venue rate? How many hours are covered by that rate? What is the overtime fee if my wedding goes beyond that length of time?
  • Does your venue rate include any services and staffing? Is wedding planning services offered?
  • Does your venue carry liability insurance? (This can be important in case a guest is injured.)
  • Is there a cancellation policy?
  • Does your venue have a list of required vendors? Can we use our favorite vendor (i.e. caterer, photographer, etc.)?
  • Does your venue have a policy pertaining to alcohol? Do we need to bring in alcohol or hire bartenders?
  • Is there parking available? How far do guests have to walk to the parking lot?
  • Is the wedding venue handicap accessible?
  • Can I tour the wedding venue?

Set up venue tours.

A wedding venue tour is your chance to see the space guests see and the spaces you use. Ask the wedding venue staff to see the main spaces where guests circulate, as well as the restrooms, changing spaces for you and your attendants, and parking lot. Use this checklist for touring the wedding venue.

As you tour and contact the wedding venue staff, make sure you include your impression of their customer service into your final decision. Do they respond promptly? Do you feel comfortable interacting with the staff? As you plan, you are going to have to interact with staff quite a bit; make sure you are comfortable with the staff and their level of customer service.

Review and confirm.

Before you sign on the dotted line, review the contract for any red flags. Carefully look over the overtime fees and cancellation policy. Feel free to ask venue staff members any questions and don’t feel obligated to sign. Once you have your wedding venue booked, it’s time to move on to the next step of wedding planning and enjoy every step of the process.

6 (BIG) Wedding Planning Lessons that Pay Off

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wedding reception with MR & MRS letters in front of a shiny background at a rainy weddingWhy jump into wedding planning blind? Head into planning your wedding with the lessons that pay big—both in time and precious budget funds. Best yet, these lessons come without those “I wish I’d…” regrets that so many couples have about their wedding day.

Interviewing vendors is not an option.

Contracts may seem like a boring and tedious part of wedding planning, but the “blah, blah, blah” of the fine print can make a big impact on your choices and budget. If reading through every contract isn’t your first choice (even if it is…), use an interview to find out the fine points. Ask wedding vendors about important details, such as overtime fees and cancellation policies.

If you have a “have-to-have” wedding vendor, make sure to ask your wedding venue about whether you can bring in your preferred caterer or photographer. Choosing a wedding vendor can also be a budget-friendly choice because couples can select the service within budget. Some wedding venues require couples to use a specific catering service or other vendor. Wedding venues with an open vendor policy allows you to use who you want (and bring in the touches you’ve been dreaming about).

Delegate with direction (and not without).

Organized wedding planning is an essential part of staying on top of things (use these tips to stay organized during wedding planning). As you start checking off tasks on your wedding planning checklist, asking for help is a “must” of wedding planning—but it comes with a disclaimer. If you’re set on using friends and family, always make sure you give input and clear deadlines. Many couples have shed tears when their ask for wedding planning help results in drama.

For wedding planning assistance without the drama, consider hiring a wedding planner (or choosing a wedding venue with an on-staff planner). A wedding planner can plan as much or as little as wanted or needed. Plus, a wedding planner isn’t related to you, so you don’t have to worry about any drama popping up years down the road.

DIY is not always worth it (at least not for everything).

Do-it-yourself projects may seem like the answer to every part of wedding planning; many couples are surprised to find out that DIY projects are not always the time- and dollar-saving answer. They’ve learned the hard way what you can learn the easy way. Always research projects to determine the cost of the project (including the amount of time) versus hiring a wedding vendor. Procrastinators, beware: DIY projects need to be started (and finished) early (use these other tips for successful DIY wedding projects).

De-stressing is not an option. It’s a lifesaver.

Be wary of taking the “pedal to the metal” approach to wedding planning. Even when you feel pressed for time (like when you have days or months, not years), schedule de-stressing days when you can relax. We’ve given you a few ideas for ways to take some time off from wedding planning (just make sure you actually disconnect the whole time). Feel free to plan some date nights and outings with your besties—and make sure your significant other does the same. A day off from time to time can help you mentally and emotionally, especially when the process feels overwhelming.

Wedding day preps are worth their weight in gold.

Your wedding day should be a relaxed occasion without worrying what else needs to be done—or how to fix a problem. A few last-minute wedding preps can make that possible. Pack an emergency kit with essentials like a sewing kit, stain remover, first aid supplies, and a few other important must-haves.

To keep the day running smoothly, send out a schedule to every involved in the day. Let your attendants and family know where they need to be, a general timeline of the day (this may be thrown off a bit), and anything you need them to do.

For vendors, make as many payment arrangements in advance as possible. If vendors requirement payment on the day of, put payment in envelopes carefully labeled with their name. Ask someone you trust (not an attendant) to pass out envelopes so you don’t have to.

Relax. Have fun!

Your special day is supposed to special. Expect that not everything is going to go exactly the way you planned. Be flexible, and enjoy all the benefits of your wedding planning.

10 Amazing Wedding Decor Ideas

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A gorgeous wedding venue is the perfect start to creating a beautiful wedding reception that leaves your guests in awe. These stunning wedding décor ideas are the next step to a wow-worthy big day.

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Lighting

Nothing captures the attention of guests like uplighting. And nothing illuminates the wonderful features of the wedding venue that made you choose it as the site of your special day.

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Shimmering Backdrops

A bit of sparkle can dazzle and delight. A shimmering backdrop attracts and draws guests when needed.

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Red Carpet Entrance

After a beautiful wedding venue exterior, a red carpet makes your guests feel like royalty.

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Over-the-Top Décor

Don’t let any part of your wedding feel neglected. Follow the old saying, “go big or go home.”

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Understated Elegance

Understated does need to mean unnoticed. These stunning vases contribute to a wonderful formal wedding atmosphere.

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Beautiful Glow

The right wedding lighting doesn’t always need to be bright.

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Sweet Presentation

The smallest details can make the biggest impact.

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Unique Linens

One-of-a-kind table linens can add interest and personality to a formal affair.

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Romantic Flare

Small hints of romance can go a long toward setting the mood.

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Dramatic Decor

Dramatic décor makes guests gasp. Make sure your combination of wedding décor details coordinate wonderfully (or use an event specialist that can choose the right décor and vendors).

6 BIG Wedding Planner Myths Explained

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Wedding planning has a reputation for being overwhelming—and deservedly so. There are so many wedding planning details to coordinate, and so little time. A wedding planner can be a great addition to a wedding planning team (especially when time and a lack of expertise are the problem!), but many couples hesitate because they believe some of the most common myths about hiring a wedding planner.

Admittedly, some wedding planners fit the stereotypical mold. They only cater to the rich and famous. As event planners ourselves, though, we are here to tell you that not all wedding planners fit that one-size-fits-all mold. That’s why we’re going to shed some light on some particularly erroneous wedding myths.

Myth: Wedding planners are only available to plan the entire wedding.

Couples who want control, this explanation is aimed at you. Wedding planners can plan as much—or as little—as wanted and needed. If you want to take the reigns over some aspects, make sure that there is an open line of communication and clear deadlines set.

For couples who want to use a certain vendor, select a wedding venue with an open vendor policy; this policy allows couples to use any vendor they prefer (instead of choosing required vendors off a list-more information on choosing vendors can be found here).

Myth: It’s too expensive to hire a wedding planner.

They say time is money, and that phrase is never more true than when wedding planning. Many couples believe that do-it-yourself wedding projects are always cheaper; the reality is that this misperception is not always true.

The phrase also applies to wedding planners. The value of the wedding planner is in their expertise and time-saving skills. Wedding planners can save couples time, allowing them to meet their professional and personal obligations.

Myth: Wedding planners only work with couples with huge budgets.

Unlike the wedding planners on television, not all wedding planners only cater to the rich and famous. Wedding planners are available for busy couples with budgets of all sizes, and can be an enormous help when coordinating vendors and wedding details.

Myth: My friends are just as good as a wedding planner.

We’re not disputing that your friends have “mad” skills. It can be awesome to have friends who can help with do-it-yourself projects and de-stressing (we’ve put down a few suggestions for local de-stressing ideas here). However, relying on friends for wedding planning can also be a huge mistake with a high degree of risk.

As well-meaning as your friends are, many times you’ll find that they want to plan their wedding (not yours!) which can lead to an unpleasant exchange (or many unpleasant encounters). Unless your friends are professionals, using them to plan your wedding can lead to missed deadlines and no back-ups to fill in during an emergency. A wedding planner has the expertise to select the right local vendors and handle any last-minute problems that might come up.

Myth: Wedding planners don’t listen to couples’ preferences.

It’s a wedding planner’s job to plan a wedding as unique as the couple. Select your wedding planner carefully; look for an experienced planner who can turn your vision into reality. If you want a planner that is familiar with your venue, hire the venue wedding planner. A venue wedding planner is intimately familiar with your wedding reception space (and ceremony, if you choose a venue with space for both) and local vendors in all price ranges and styles.

Myth: I can’t use my favorite vendor if I hire a wedding planner.

A wedding planner may take over wedding planning, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have your favorite caterer, photographer, florist, or videographer. If you have a favorite vendor, tell your planner your preference as soon as possible so they can choose a vendor that allows your preference. At some venues, couples have to choose from a required list of vendors. Venues with an open-vendor policy allow any reputable vendor to come into their facility.

Best Wedding Planning Posts of 2018

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bride above a beautiful wedding receptionAny engaged couple can tell you that wedding planning is a multi-step process. From the proposal to the final wedding vendor contract, the wedding planning process can be full of twists, turns, and an occasional yearning to elope. As wedding planners, we’ve seen it all—and helped couples navigate through every step of the wedding planning process.

We’ve put together the best wedding planning blog posts that can help you through planning your big day from the start to the end. (Contact us if you want more info. We can make your dream day a reality.)

Get started wedding planning…

Wedding Planning Guide: What is the first step in planning a wedding?

Tap into these tricks as you dive into wedding planning…

Tips from the Pros: 15 Tips (and Tricks!) that’ll Kick Start Your Wedding Planning

Setting a wedding budget…

How can I keep my wedding within budget?

Use these questions to screen wedding venues and find the right ‘one’…

24 Wedding Venue Questions You Shouldn’t Forget to Ask

This wedding venue tour checklist makes sure your wedding venue has all those ‘must-have’ spaces…

What should I look for in my wedding venue tour?

Deciding whether to host an adults-only wedding…

Should you host an adults-only wedding?

Keeping the wedding drama (with friends and family) to a minimum…

7 Ways to Minimize the Wedding Planning Drama

Choosing and hiring wedding vendors…

Complete Wedding Vendor List

And for when the urge to elope strikes…

25 Ways to De-Stress Wedding Planning in Milwaukee

Planning an epic wedding reception dance…

7 Tips for an AWESOME Wedding Dance

Deciding on a fun wedding reception surprise…

21 (Fun!) Wedding Reception Surprise Ideas

Setting up a stellar wedding website…

10 Musts of a Stellar Wedding Website

Dealing with any wedding day emergencies that might come up…

7 Wedding Day Curve Balls (& How to Deal with Them)

Engaged? Use these 10 Essential Wedding Planning Tips

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bride and groom dancing at summer wedding reception in beautiful wedding venueFrom the moment couples announce their engagement, the advice starts coming in (and never seems to stop). Suddenly, everyone has an idea for your wedding—and there are a million ways to use all that advice. When it comes down to it, though, you don’t need all that wedding advice (good news!), just a few basic tips that can guide planning the special day of your dreams.

Don’t procrastinate.

Wedding planning can be a lot less stressful by checking off a few of the wedding planning tasks now (here are the first few wedding planning tasks to get you started). As an extra bonus, booking the right wedding venue and vendors guarantees that you get the site, caterer, and photographer that you want. As you start planning, don’t feel that you need to have an exact wedding date. It can be easier to get the venue and vendors you want if you are flexible about dates (“what dates are you available?”) and only have a month or season in mind (use these tips to choose the right wedding date).

Stay organized.

We’re not going to lie: there are a lot of steps to wedding planning. It can be overwhelming—and completely doable if you stay organized. Use this wedding planning checklist and these tips to stay on top of your wedding planning. If family or friends ask to help, give them a deadline to ensure that the task is done and checked off the list.

If hiring a wedding planner, choose the right level of wedding planning.

Most couples assume that a wedding planner is a one-size-fits-all service that completely takes over. In reality, there are full-service wedding planners that can attend to every detail and part-time planners that can assist throughout the process. Decide which type of planning fits your wedding and your lifestyle early in the process and add it to your to-do list (or criteria for your wedding venue). This can help you decide between two planners or venues (some venues offer on-staff wedding planners that are intimately familiar with the venue and local vendors).

Select your venue carefully.

There are a lot of big wedding planning decisions; one of the biggest is the wedding venue because it dictates all the other wedding day details. The best piece of wedding planning advice: consider your options for a wedding venue carefully. Use this wedding venue checklist and these questions to select the best wedding venue for your special day. Don’t choose a wedding venue until you’ve seen it; online photos can be misleading. Schedule a tour (or ask a family member or planner if you can’t) to ensure that the wedding venue is the right one.

Let everyone know that you have a favorite vendor.

Assumptions are the enemy during wedding planning; don’t assume you can bring in your favorite caterer or décor caterer you would love to use. Make sure you ask the venue if they have an open vendor policy, which allows couples to bring in their preferred vendors. If hiring a wedding planner, let them know right away that you have a vendor in mind so they can factor that into the planning process.

Draft a guest list early in the process.

As you go through the wedding planning process, you’ll find that two key points keep coming up: date and amount of guests. While you don’t have to get a final guest list nailed down, it does make cents (pun intended) to set an estimated guest list. As you plan, decide whether you want an adults-only wedding or a kids included guest list. This simple step can help you as you make key wedding planning decisions—and save you from heartache. You don’t want to fall in love with a wedding venue that doesn’t have enough room for your guests.

Make guest comfort a priority.

Your big day is all about you, but the people you want to join you celebrating should be a focus too. Keep your guests in mind as you plan. Choose a venue with enough space and all the amenities that your guests appreciate. Little things matter, like a venue with convenient parking and transportation so guests don’t have to tramp for miles to your big day. An open-bar policy can also be a touchy subject for guests; decide early what your preference is and communicate the specifics on your wedding website. You’d be surprised too how those little things can stick with you; the smallest details, like a late-night food course, can be the detail that guests talk about for years.

Decide on a budget ASAP.

A wedding budget should not be an afterthought. Have a conversation with your significant other and anyone else that has expressed an interest in contributing to your big day. (As long as you are opening the lines of communication, discuss these key points before you delve into wedding planning.) Decide on a wedding budget (this wedding budget checklist can help) and be open about issues that may arise, such as credit problems or credit card limits.

Pack an emergency wedding kit for your big day.

An emergency wedding kit may seem like a small detail, but one with big implications. Make sure you pack these wedding essentials for those “just in case” situations, such as bad weather, a rip or tear, or any other unpleasant problems that come up. In your wedding kit, too, plan on putting payments for vendors and any last-minute items you need for the day (use this list of wedding kit essentials).

Enjoy yourself.

A wedding is a celebration. Enjoy it—and the process to get to your big day! When you feel overwhelmed, use these tips for de-stressing or spend some time relaxing with these de-stressing ideas. Once all the planning is over, take a deep breath and use these last-minute preps to ensure that you are enjoying every moment of the biggest day of your life.

Wedding Planning Guide: What is the first step in planning a wedding?

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wedding day at a reception hall with bride and groom dancing after wedding planningYour significant other popped the question! Congrats! Once the glow of the proposal has worn off, it’s time to face the enormous task of wedding planning. While this wedding planning checklist from Real Simple can get you through the next few months (or years), we’ve given you a wedding planning guide that can get you started with the first step, talking to your partner, and can take you step-by-step from there.

Before you shop for wedding dresses or decide on flowers, sit down and talk to your future husband or wife (then follow the next steps in our wedding planning guide). A simple conversation now can give your wedding planning direction and guide you as select and finalize all the wedding day details.

Location

Where would you like to get married? Decide together whether your home town, current city, lake home, alma mater, or favorite vacation spot is your ideal place to get married. Once you’ve narrowed down the city, state, and country, start thinking about what you want and need in your wedding venue.

Next wedding planning step: Use this list of criteria to narrow down your choices for wedding venue; the next step is to contact potential wedding venues and ask them these important questions.

Date

You don’t have to select the exact wedding date, but it is helpful to narrow down your options to a month or season. If there is some flexibility on date but not on budget, ask the wedding venue for an evening weekday or Sunday morning (for brunch!); many venues give discounted rates for off-peak days.

Next wedding planning step: Use this guide to decide on a wedding date you both are excited about. Contact wedding venues and ask if the date is available. If there is some flexibility on date, ask the wedding venue for open dates during the desired season or month.

Guest List

You and your spouse-to-be don’t have to come up with an exact wedding list, but start talking about whether you want a big wedding or a smaller, more intimate affair. An idea of the guest count is also helpful when choosing the right wedding venue, which shouldn’t be too big or too small.

Next wedding planning step: Use these steps to set a wedding guest list. A final guest list can give you general numbers to give to the caterer and vendors for linen rental and centerpieces.

Budget

This is a very important part of the initial wedding planning conversation. Decide how much you want to spend on your wedding day, and where the funds are coming from.

Next wedding planning step: Contact any friends or family members that have expressed an interest in helping pay for the wedding day. Make sure you get a clear answer (not just “we can cover dinner”) to minimize any disagreements later.

Style

Every couple has their own style and vision for the wedding day. Do you want a formal, elegant wedding day? Or a day with a historic style? Is a rustic wedding more your style? As you discuss the big picture, be sure to ask if there is anything really important that either of you really want on their big day. Your spouse-to-be’s answer may surprise you.

Next wedding planning step: Take your desired style and run with it as you coordinate the details of your desire wedding atmosphere. Use the style to find wedding venues and attire, and to set a delicious wedding menu.

Time

Wedding planning can be a monumental task. Discuss the amount of time you both have to allocate to planning your special day. Be realistic; a good wedding planner can be a huge help when your time is small.

Next wedding planning step: If you need a wedding planner, get recommendations from friends or add it to your list of wedding venue criteria. Many venues have a wedding planner on staff who is intimately familiar with the site and local vendors. If DIY wedding planning is the choice, ask friends or family for their help; give them specific tasks and deadlines to eliminate any misunderstandings later.

24 Wedding Venue Questions You Shouldn’t Forget to Ask

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milwaukee wedding venue with dramatic uplightingIt’s not unusual to be so completely awestruck by a wedding venue that you completely forget to ask about the logistical details. It’s even completely understandable; after all, there are some beautiful wedding venues in Milwaukee!

Try to avoid the trap “it’s so beautiful, where do I sign?” whenever possible. Those small details can play an important role in coordinating all those other details (use this convenient wedding planning checklist), such as a volume curfew that puts a real damper on a fantastic wedding dance or a lack of parking for wedding guests. A wedding venue is the foundation of all that wedding planning; it makes sense (both for your wedding budget and wedding planning) to sweat the small details before you reserve the site for your big day.

This advice comes with a wedding tip: never reserve a wedding venue without asking the logistical details and touring the venue (and we can help!). Use this list of wedding venue questions to make sure the venue is the right one AND this link to tour a beautiful Milwaukee wedding venue as you plan your special day.

Availability

Venue Cost

  • How much is your venue rate? How many hours are covered by that rate? What is the overtime fee if my wedding goes beyond that length of time?
  • What services are covered by the venue rate?
  • Do you offer wedding planning services?
  • What staff is included in the venue rate (i.e. coat check, venue manager, etc.)?

Fine Print

  • Does your venue carry liability insurance? (This can be important in case a guest is injured.)
  • What is the wedding venue cancellation policy?
  • Do I have to use a preferred vendor from a list? Do you have an open vendor policy? (The latter policy means you can bring in the vendor of your choice.)
  • What is the venue alcohol policy? Do I need to hire a vendor bring it in? Are bartenders included in the venue rate?

Guests

  • Where do my guests have to park? Is it close to the wedding venue?
  • Is the wedding venue handicap accessible?
  • Are there local accommodations for my guests (i.e. hotels, inns, etc.)? How far away are these businesses?
  • When can I tour the wedding venue?

7 Winter Wedding Do’s and Don’ts Your Guests Appreciate

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winter wedding venue feature wall with beads and uplightingThere are some wonderful winter wedding ideas on the web (like these winter wedding ideas). While guests love every one, we’re focusing on those winter wedding planning steps that your guests really appreciate—especially on one of our freezing Wisconsin winter days.

DO warm them up.

We’re stating the obvious: it’s cold outside! Winter weather can be cold, snowy, wet—or all of the above. Don’t leave guests out in the cold. Take steps to warm them up as soon as they walk in the door; welcome them with a warm fire (add that to your wedding venue checklist) and serve them warm beverages and refreshments. Remember, that a cozy welcome shouldn’t turn into toasty wedding reception; take steps to keep guests comfortable so they enjoy themselves.

DON’T make guests trudge (too far) through the snow.

Nothing can put a damper on the evening like ruining guests’ best dancing shoes. When choosing a winter wedding venue, make sure you ask about available parking. Make your guests’ night; choose a wedding venue with an incredibly close parking lot so your guests have a short walk in the cold winter weather. (If you want to make the winter weather commute even easier, hold your ceremony and reception at the same wedding venue.)

DO choose the right venue for a beautiful winter wedding.

Choosing the right wedding venue is important part of any season wedding planning; a winter wedding deserves no less. Use this checklist for singling out the right wedding venue for your big day—and don’t mark a beautiful venue exterior off the list just because of the weather. Some of the most beautiful photos are taken outside (especially with beautiful shawls and accessories!) in the winter weather.

DON’T feel you have to plan a winter wedding all yourself.

Planning a winter wedding can feel overwhelming. There are so many winter wedding details to coordinate! To de-stress the process, take a break from the wedding planning (use this list of local de-stressing ideas in Milwaukee!) and don’t hesitate to ask for help. If you want professional assistance, hire a wedding planner or select a wedding venue with experienced planners that are intimately familiar with the venue, local vendors, and the wedding planning process.   

DO get inspired by the beautiful season.

Every couple chooses a winter wedding date for a different reason: to commemorate a certain date, because it’s their “down time,” beautiful wedding venues tend to have more wedding dates, they love the season…the list goes on and on. Whatever the reason, once you’ve chosen a winter wedding date, indulge the season as you plan BUT don’t feel confined by it. Winter weddings can still be colorful and diverse events; not every winter wedding has to be pure white or holiday-themed. Have fun with creating a beautiful winter wedding day.

DON’T neglect your bridesmaids.

Hopefully, you chose your bridesmaids because you prize them. Make them feel like prized guests on the wedding day—no matter how cold it is! Provide transportation so they don’t have to brave the cold weather. When they do need to stand in the cold (like for beautiful wedding photos!), provide fashionable weather accessories that keep them snug and warm. Your bridesmaids are going to appreciate shawls, muffs, mittens, hats…anything cozy and warm.

DO decide on the right winter wedding favor.

A winter wedding comes with incredible opportunities: beautiful winter wedding décor, scrumptious seasonal wedding menu dishes, and unique winter wedding favors. Think hot cocoa kits (with all the fixings), mittens, holiday ornaments, blankets, fire starters…the options for winter wedding favors are as numerous as the snowflakes during a blizzard (these winter wedding favor ideas can inspire you).