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12 Adults-Only Wedding Do’s and Don’ts

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Couples who want a late night of dancing and adult fun, these wedding planning tips are for you. An adults-only wedding comes with the “normal” wedding planning checklist (like choosing the right wedding venue) PLUS a few do’s, don’ts, and the wording that communicates your wishes.

Adults-Only Wedding Do’s and Don’ts

  • Do be polite about the adults-only request.
  • Don’t use negative terms like “no kids” or “kids are not welcome.”
  • Do feel free to reach out to guests who plan to bring kids.
  • Don’t be surprised if guests express displeasure at your decision.
  • Do arrange for babysitting (a kids room) in another space if your venue and budget allows.
  • Don’t make exceptions for certain guests.
  • Do include kids in your wedding party if that is what you want.
  • Don’t hesitate to include adult touches in the wedding reception, such as a wine or beer tasting.
  • Do put the request for an adults-only wedding on your website (along with this wedding website information).
  • Don’t think you have to plan your adults-only wedding alone. Hire a wedding planner to help with planning an unforgettable adult occasion.
  • Do let friends and family know about your wishes so they can help spread the word that the reception is adults-only.
  • Don’t feel like you have to give a reason for your decision. If you do have a reason (such as a limited amount of space or budget) and want to share it, use the appropriate wording to communicate your decision.

Adults-Only Wedding Wording

  1. Address invitations only to adults (no “plus family”)
  2. Include the line for “Number of adults to expect” on the wedding website or invite
  3. “We would appreciate your presence at our adult reception.”
  4. “Due to limited space, we are hosting a dinner and reception for adults only.”
  5. “Our reception is an adult affair. Babysitting for children will be provided in another space at our venue.”
  6. “We are planning an adults’ night out to celebrate our special day. Please let us know how many adults will be joining us.”
  7. “Our wedding reception is an adults-only occasion. We are arranging for babysitting in another room. Parents will be responsible for the caretakers’ compensation.”
  8. “We will be including our youngest family members in our wedding, however we ask that the wedding reception be an adults-only affair.”
  9. “Our wedding reception plans are for a late night of dancing and fun. Please RSVP with the names of adults that are joining us for the celebration.”
  10. “We love your children, but we cannot accommodate them at our wedding reception. Please respond with the number of adults that will be joining us.”